Wednesday, December 29, 2010

How has adoption and special needs affected our biological children?

John 14:18
I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you
 
 
The big Elijah boy --these days so much stronger than 3 years ago.  No one that meets him today would ever imagine that he had a massive left sided stroke as infant and has CP.  Considering a special needs child does define who they are just a small part of them.

The cutest Christmas elf ever that loves to act and sing.


Our son Graedy that is becoming a great young man.
An official teenager!!  Learning to think of others in the age of "How will this affect ME?"


For the love of a dog.
Elise the girl that loves music, before her first concert.

Sneha the child that has transformed within a year with a family.  The authorities of India questioned how we could take in a child that has so many problems -microcephaly,delayed development,delayed milestones, and no speech.  They didn't even include seizure disorder, bilateral hearing loss and perforated  ears drums.  God sets the lonely in families and picks out their families if we hear his call to us.  He chose Sneha for us. 
A sight to behold-no longer one of the fatherless
Questions:

Will adoption affect our birth children?

 Adoption is a family transformation with hills and valleys.  A journey to grow outside of the me, me, me, mentality.

Would I ever want to go back  to just a bio family?

Of all the decisions in life adoption is something I will never regret.

Why do we adopt from the US foster care system?

We have tried to pursue this on a few occasions and every time it  has failed and God has closed the doors.  This is a wonderful option for many families and great children are waiting for families here in  the US. www.adoptuskids.org or www.adoptex.org



How have special needs affected our family and life?

Is easy to imagine how someone with profound disabilities live, but until you are their provider the true importance of the body of Christ coming together for those in need is  so apparent.  We are His hands and feet, no one else.  With out us they perish.  Our birth children are learning that people do not choose to have disabilities and that they have value and worth on our earth.  All of our  children notice those with disabilities, but in a new light.

How has the "Sacrifice" changed our lives?

We can never go back to our "old" lives again.  We don't want and care about the same things anymore.  We are sad that this had distanced us from some, but also brought us closer to others.  We have laid the fleece out to our Lord one more time.  Now  we shall wait for our answer.  We look hopeful for the future.  We are so thankful what our family has learned through trials and "sacrifice".  We cannot wait for our chidren to love what God loves and for them to grieve for what grieves his heart.  Only then can we act.


Judges 6:39



Then Gideon said to God, “Do not be angry with me. Let me make just one more request. Allow me one more test with the fleece, but this time make the fleece dry and let the ground be covered with dew.”


Lord hear our prayers to you!

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